So you and your significant other have decided to take that next step and move in with each other. Congratulations! You’re together all the time anyways, so there’s nothing that he could do that would even surprise you at this point, right? While the first few months in the new “humble abode” may be practically perfect (with each of you being conscious of the other’s presence) you will soon find that even Mr. Perfect can sometimes get on your nerves (like any roommate).
So here are some things you should embrace for when moving in with that loved one.
- The Constant Little Messes.
Clothes, food, dishes, wrappers, EVERYWHERE! Some guys are just comfortable in their own mess (or they’re used to their moms picking up after them). I’m not saying they have a pile of clothes comparable to Mt. Everest, but a wrapper here and a sock there…it all adds up.
- Nothing is Private.
No more sanctuary to go to when you just want to sleep all day or have a Lifetime movie marathon. There are no secrets once you decide to live together. You will soon learn each other’s bad habits and see a fair amount of each other’s annoyed sides.
- Shared Bills.
Like I said, nothing is private, including your financial status. There is no mystery behind each of your incomes because life costs money. Whether it’s rent, electric, groceries, cable, whatever; consider your funds mutual.
- What’s for Dinner?
You’re no longer in the simple dating phase and, sorry to break it to you, but you can’t go out for dinner every night (unless you’ve got mad money like that, then just ignore this one). Boys like to eat, and they tend to eat a lot. After a while, the fun creative dinners at home just become a task of “Well, what do we have in the fridge?”
- Why are we fighting about this?
The stereotypes of newlyweds, #roommateproblems, or anyone moving in with their SO are true. You will argue about little things that don’t matter. It just happens when you’re around somebody all the time. Fighting about which way the toilet paper goes, who’s turn it is to do the dishes, or what the AC should be set to, are silly, but natural. Don’t let these arguments mount up to anything more than what they need to be.
- Different takes on decorating.
Depending on where your boyfriend is in his life, his “home décor” may consist of things you would find in a sports bar or man cave, or possibly a dorm room. This is where I have fun, because I basically get to decorate the whole apartment myself. Of course, there are a few items that my boyfriend just can’t part with and he thinks are extremely stylish, so I have to get creative and incorporate license plates, whiskey bottles, and marble coasters into my decorating plans, but it adds a bit of him to the home.
- Communication is key.
There’s a lot of things that need to be communicated when living with another person. For instance, when we got our first batch of indoor plants they all ended up dying quite rapidly. I was confused because I told my boyfriend that I had been watering them every day. Apparently, he had been watering them every day too. Overwatering killed my plants. Having to communicate about large things like bills and due dates are usually a given when moving in with someone, but forgetting to keep each other informed on the little things can land you with a house full of dead plants.
Now don’t get me wrong, moving in with your loved one is a huge deal! It’s one step closer to building your lives together and the little things are simply that “LITTLE THINGS”. Don’t let the small stuff get in the way of the big picture. You moved in together because your significant other is your best friend and you have fun together.
Enjoy the new adventure!